Saturday 21 September 2013

To stand out like the lotus



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Right from my school days I remember the usual rivalry dialogue, 'my school, the lotus - your  school, dabba school.'
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The lotus stands out in a pond - tall and brave and imposing, challenging its very background - dangerous slush and dirty, stagnant water.
It's refreshing to see people like that in real life: standing out for their values in the face of opposition and contradictory tradition.
An example
I know of a village where their tradition regarding women differs from what we normally find in more developed areas.Why talk of villages- if we were to rewind our own dialogues, we'd find some gender bias that sounds the natural thing  to do. Maybe that's what ultimately works out in society; maybe we're made that way ( or brought up that way).Perhaps the male hormones have some place for ego and the female ones have some kind for service.
Whether its scientific or not, I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.


Well, back to our village, I was surprised to find a man give his wife a week's rest. He let her go to her mom's place just like that.The only son in the midst of many daughters - a place conducive to developing fully male chauvinistic ideas.Maybe I should salute him for his act.
Earlier
Only a few months earlier his wife had come home for her delivery.Hardly was the child a few months old when he called her to join him.He had got used to her cooking which was far preferable to his mother's and hence the hurry.


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But now perhaps caring for and watching the little one grow gave him a more protective and mature attitude.Whatever the stimulus may  have been, not all respond so positively.A growth is a growth and is to be appreciated.
Explanation for his present behaviour 
 When he wanted to take some major decisions in the family contrary to his mother's wishes, she wrongly thought them to be suggested by his wife. When there was no other way of convincing his mother of his wife's uninvolvement in the matter, he felt that she would be convinced more easily if the wife were away and so  gave his wife a much needed holiday( from the nagging ma-in -law) .
 Even ordinarily it would have been great but you know what? This holiday included their wedding anniversary and which man would forgo his special briyani? 
This hero did. And instead, celebrated  his wife's return in style, free from the hassles of  a possessive  mother-in-law (possessive about her son) .

NB-dabba- ordinary, hollow

       briyani-a special dish made by cooking rice and meat together

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