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"Happy woman's day," we hear some people wish each other. A lucky few can afford to smile on hearing such greetings while to others it sounds meaningless. And to some others it triggers the flow of tears.
A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL-I heard a family discuss the various proposals of marriage that had come up for their daughter. The horoscope of one of the boys suited their daughter very well but it looked like the family expected much more dowry than these people had ever thought of.
The girl concerned was a brilliant student all her academic life and was now working at a Multi National Company - with the same qualification as the boy. Only thing being elder, he was senior. The parents thought of gearing up for the inevitable - providing whatever the family asked for, when well wishers interrupted them and asked them to stop the mad race.
"Do you think you are doing her any good? they asked. What if this attitude continues throughout her life?
Let this boy go. The girl is still young and has ample number of possibilities before her."
ANOTHER INCIDENT=
This reminds me of another incident where a very beautiful girl was engaged to a boy two years her senior. Her father's Fixed Deposit was to mature two months after the wedding which he had promised to give the couple to buy whatever they would need to start a new family. But hours before the wedding the groom threatened that if the amount was not given immediately he would isolate the bride , not let her meet her parents, etc. The father of the bride was confused. But her elder brother was very firm that the marriage be called off immediately, stating that they were lucky the marriage hadn't yet taken place. In India, this is a bold step because relatives and friends come from far and wide to attend a marriage.
The groom never expected it and apologized immediately, saying this and that. But that was that. The girl later married a nice boy and is happy.
UNREASONABLE-
What puzzles me is that after so many years of education and thought, people could still be so under developed in their brains.What once started as a parent's gift to their daughters for security in cases of emergency has now turned into a cheap trade, a business. They demand jewels which are not going to be taken out of the bank lockers or used till the next generation anyway. It's not safe to be kept either at homes or to be worn by people.
On the streets, in public buses and at shops we sometimes overhear young boys telling each other that they are doing this and that course not for love of the subject or to improve their prospects but to increase their rate as bridegrooms. One is shocked but I was presently surprised to hear a set of girls saying that they were doing the same courses as boys to snub them if they asked for any dowry.
What about those who can't study but still are worthy for what they are, who work all day at home to provide a caring, encouraging place for the family to grow and develop, I thought though I liked the spirit of fighting they were putting up.
THE EFFECT-
This curse has resulted in so many abortions and ill treatment of girls even in their father's homes as if they were responsible for their gender or birth. In many States of India the proportions of the girl - boy ratio is imbalanced and alarming.
YOUR CONTRIBUTION-
Let those who are concerned with the amendment of laws do whatever they think best but it is the public attitude that matters ultimately. Girls specially should be aware of their basic human rights and their worth as individuals.
And well armed with the courage to use them whenever the need arises.
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